Conversation is a good starter. Exploring what is mutually sensual is a good next step. I love women but I'm ruling any out for now -- I'm married yet barely getting any sex for over a decade. When I was young, a few of my most memorial sexual experiences were with men. I'm getting up there in years, so, while I still have some energy, I think I should be allowed to have some mutual fun. Don't you, too? Just a jack off buddy, at first, would be nice. I'm a bit shy, so we can see how the chemistry works out.