Hello and thanks for taking a look at my profile. I am new to the area around Sparwood and Fernie, and just starting to have a look around to see who might be in the area. I am into ethical non-monogamy and I have a steady partner of over 20 years who shares this outlook. I am happy in this relationship and have only a desire to add to my life. I list myself as separated because we currently live in separate homes, not because we are no longer deeply in love. T be clear, if I meet someone from this site then it is because my wife knows about it and is happy for remaking new connections. I am a person who needs a feeling of connection with someone before I can be romantic or intimate. This connection can take a day, a week, month, or even longer to happen, but it is a deal breaker for me. I'm not really compelled to enter the one night stand scenario, simply because I want more than that. I want friends. I'll steal from the profile of a certain land based cetacean, who said: "it's not strangers with benefits...". I enjoy intelligence and empathy. What that means is wanting to talk about more than the weather, and actually caring about other people. If you spend a lot of energy judging and criticizing others, then we probably won't get along. You may find me strange if we chat because I'll probably be more interested in you the person than what your bra size is. If you excite my mind then I will probably LOVE your body, no matter what the dimensions. I want my life to be filled with friends and fun. I love doing things with others, and gravitate more towards small intimate groups and 1 on 1 than a party, but there's nothing as great as hanging around interesting people at a fire and or terrific house party. I'm socially versatile and outgoing, but I need quiet space to recharge. Currently I have my own place and a lot of privacy.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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