What would you consider excessive?  

Jessygirl23 28F  
277 posts
2/22/2022 6:39 pm
What would you consider excessive?

I went out with a group of girlfriends a while ago and the topic of how many partners you had came up broken down into how many in one night, one week, one year and in your whole life time.

I deliberately didn't go first and was so glad I held back because I had to tone my quantities right down and just flat out lied about the real of sexual partners I had in all the categories!

My question is,

What would you consider be a reasonable amount of sexual partners for an average single in her twenties in one year?
One
Two
Three
Four to six
Seven to ten
Eleven to twenty
Twenty to thirty
NO LIMITS!!!


Trapper69 65G  
2657 posts
3/22/2022 1:44 pm

It really doesn't matter how many partners someone has had. What matters is that they are careful and selective to insure they're not exposed to STDs ot something worse!


brad684h 65M  
12 posts
3/2/2022 1:58 pm

As many as you want/need; everyone is different, and no-one should judge you for your sexuality. xx


CedarsPrince 42M  
1608 posts
2/24/2022 10:35 am

It doesn't matter how many as long as the person is being safe and responsible.


MelbLife 56M
313 posts
2/23/2022 5:09 pm

why should anyone be a judge, and be judgmental, about a number, when it comes to sexual partners?

Having many doesn't mean better, and it doesn't mean worse. It may just be opportunity, culture, mood, and character. Affixing a number and a line seems to be judging people on that, not on them....on a single point of knowledge rather than an entire personality.


Squier57 64M  
101 posts
2/23/2022 12:16 pm

It's not a competition ! Go for quality not quantity.
Stay safe
S x


forgotforgetting 55M  
8134 posts
2/23/2022 7:56 am

Honestly, there is not correct answer here. It depends on the person and why the number. From this perspective one can be just as unreasonable as one hundred, or vice versa.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde


GhostofH 63M  
22770 posts
2/23/2022 6:11 am

I feel that your question may be double edged, but I'll give it a go. When you are single and not in some sort of committed relationship, your obligation to others is nill. (except for safety)

If you are merely seeking fun times or sowing your wild oats and seek variety in your sexual activities, then the sky's the limit. If however you are seeking someone 'special', then that in itself is another set of circumstances.

Also if you yourself are not ready to settle down and still in an experimental stage of your sexual exploration, then why put a cap or limit on it?

So for me, there is no one right nor correct answer. Each to their own. What your girlfriends do or seek may be right for them but not for you and visa versa. Depending on how large your 'group' was that evening, may also not necessarily give you an accurate comparison of the norm in your locale.

So regardless of your actual numbers, it doesn't really matter as it is your life and your prerogative as to what and/or how many you opt to do. You have to be you.


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